The Invitation
Alright, the following is starting to become a pet peeve of mine. I've been getting called on it more then a few times this past month or so, and I just want to explain myself.
When someone invites someone, makes plans, or even talks about doing something together, to me, there is an assuption that they will be GOING together. To me, that's the whole reason you discuss with your group of friends ahead of time--before the event.
If that were not the case, then planning to do something before is no different then getting in your car, starting to drive, and when you're about to reach your destination, calling your friends and saying, hey! i'm about to arrive at *destination* why don't you come and meet up with me?
So what is my point? If you plan something ahead of time, then the assuption is that you will be going together. The purpose of planning ahead of time is to figure out who picks up who, who should drive to who's house, where do you want to meet up before going to your destination, and all those sorts of details. Don't invite me to go somewhere, and when I call you later, tell me that you're already on your way there and I should just meet up with you inside.
Of course, there are exceptions to the rule. If i live so far out of the way that I know i'll inconvenience you to come pick me up, i will drive to your house or somewhere inbetween where we can then figure out who will drive. But even then, we are still going together.
If I know that I will be late or something is holding me up, I will tell everyone to go there first and I will meet up with you when I can.
If I am inviting other people and I know my car will be filled, thus defeating the carpool, I will either volunteer to meet up and drive there together, or to just meet you there. (This doesn't work in reverse.. if the inviter fills up his car and asks you to drive by yourself because he filled up his car, he is fucked up and should die.)
So rule of thumb, if you're driving by yourself or walking by yourself to go to the place that you all previously decided to go to, and the above reasons do not quality, then you got fuckin jipped. I see no sane reason why anyone would call me up and tell me to meet up with them when I was invited to come along beforehand. That's just dumb and I will refuse to go.
So it was written.
Alright, the following is starting to become a pet peeve of mine. I've been getting called on it more then a few times this past month or so, and I just want to explain myself.
When someone invites someone, makes plans, or even talks about doing something together, to me, there is an assuption that they will be GOING together. To me, that's the whole reason you discuss with your group of friends ahead of time--before the event.
If that were not the case, then planning to do something before is no different then getting in your car, starting to drive, and when you're about to reach your destination, calling your friends and saying, hey! i'm about to arrive at *destination* why don't you come and meet up with me?
So what is my point? If you plan something ahead of time, then the assuption is that you will be going together. The purpose of planning ahead of time is to figure out who picks up who, who should drive to who's house, where do you want to meet up before going to your destination, and all those sorts of details. Don't invite me to go somewhere, and when I call you later, tell me that you're already on your way there and I should just meet up with you inside.
Of course, there are exceptions to the rule. If i live so far out of the way that I know i'll inconvenience you to come pick me up, i will drive to your house or somewhere inbetween where we can then figure out who will drive. But even then, we are still going together.
If I know that I will be late or something is holding me up, I will tell everyone to go there first and I will meet up with you when I can.
If I am inviting other people and I know my car will be filled, thus defeating the carpool, I will either volunteer to meet up and drive there together, or to just meet you there. (This doesn't work in reverse.. if the inviter fills up his car and asks you to drive by yourself because he filled up his car, he is fucked up and should die.)
So rule of thumb, if you're driving by yourself or walking by yourself to go to the place that you all previously decided to go to, and the above reasons do not quality, then you got fuckin jipped. I see no sane reason why anyone would call me up and tell me to meet up with them when I was invited to come along beforehand. That's just dumb and I will refuse to go.
So it was written.
posted by Allen M @ 9/05/2004 11:38:00 PM
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